You never hear anyone ask about personal responsibility.  You’re an adult, you can have all the sex you want but don't get pregnant. If you do, well, life is unfair, and you must live with the consequences and make the best of it. But that is asking too much. I have a longtime friend who accidently got pregnant at 23. She married and tried to make the relationship work. She ended up having another child; however, she finally divorced.